Are you invisible?
I was reading Adam Kayce’s blog this week, and something he said inspired me to think about my own authenticity. He said: “…when you don’t open up to others because you’re afraid of not being loved, you end up not being loved nearly as much as you could, because you’re practically invisible.”
WHOA.
That stopped me in my tracks. As someone who has had huge issues with fear of rejection and the like, I am acutely aware of how to make myself invisible in certain situations… and no, I don’t have an invisibility cloak 
But, how many times have you not said what you wanted to say, or not done something that you really wanted to do, because you were worried about what people would think?
How many times while building your practice have you let other’s opinions and judgments sway you? How many times have you made excuses due to fear?
I always say, nothing brings out all of your self-esteem demons like building a healing practice!
I think the worst way this manifests is, as Adam writes about in his post, when we need help. We can be so fearful of showing our vulnerability that we don’t even ask for help - when it’s sitting right in front of us.
I’ve had people want so badly to talk to me about coaching, but they’re afraid to approach me because they don’t want anyone to know that they need help. Yikes. The reason I know that, is because more than one client has confessed that to me.
Hey - I’m a coach - and even I need help! Yes - I too, work with a coach.
We can’t do it alone. If we could, this human experience would be pretty boring.
I can look back over my recent past and see times when I was extremely successful… and times when I was pushing and pulling so hard - taking every action I knew how to take and STILL nothing was working.
And, every single time, the successes came when I was standing powerfully inside myself. When I wasn’t afraid to listen to my heart, and just really be me.
I loved Adam’s quote because it really resonated for me. I’ve been going through some healing these last couple of weeks - healing some stuff from my past. And that quote was just such a great reminder to be fearlessly me 
April 25th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Thanks, Jenn — I’m glad to hear you got so much from my words. I did have the feeling when I wrote that, that it might strike a chord for a few people. Glad you were one of them!
Speaking of quotes, this one’s a winner:
Way to go!
April 25th, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Too Shay Adam! I was going to say the same thing here about the same sentence.
We are not suppose to do it alone. It is about SHARING the journey together and helping each other. Why do you think that blogging and social networking are so prevelant on the internet—because we enjoy helping each other and being a part of a group.
And when you don’t ask for help it can cripple you from growing as a human being and in your business.
I work with my clients in my virtual assistant business as well with not wanting to ask for help and then they get so overwhelmed that once they do ask for help and receive it they don’t know why they waited so long.
I think part of it is, they wonder if I will be able to REALLY help them…they question the level of help I am able to offer. However, my response to that is…if you don’t even ask for the help, you don’t know how I may be able to help. You may find out they I can help MORE than you expected.
And that goes in other parts of life as well. If you don’t ask others for help, they don’t know that you NEED the help.
And as a virtual assistant, I need a virtual assistant from time to time to help me in my business.
Don’t look at asking for help as a burden or a negative attribute…however, look at asking for help as self improvement and self awareness and change your mind set, you will be happier for it.
Thanks again Jenn for a wonderful post!
Sincerely,
Teresa Morrow
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